
Members of the BIPOC communities are familiar with the expression “we’ve got to work twice as hard to get half as far” as our white counterparts. This sentiment has been expressed repeatedly by Michelle Obama and most other parents within these communities. Since childhood, we’ve known that we’ll never get in the door without solid qualifications.

The state of most workplaces suggests that something other than merit is operating – or we’d see better representation at all levels.
The U.S. college admissions scandal that came to light in March 2019 — celebrities and other wealthy people took action to get preferential treatment for their children – is a great example of how widespread and well-established the practice of passing over has become. It’s hard to know how many better-qualified candidates were passed over and denied opportunities because some parents used their money to pave the way for their kids’ success.
Here are two examples of how being passed over plays out in the workplace. One scenario that I’ve heard from BIPOC men and women is that they’ve been asked to train someone who eventually becomes his/her boss, or who took their job before they were planning to leave. The other variant is when someone less experienced and less capable, gets a promotion over a colleague who was qualified in every way.

The only silver lining is that the conversation has become too loud to be ignored.
Advice for When You’ve Been Passed Over
While an emotional response is natural, it is important to take a day or two to process and calm down, and not exhibit an openly emotional response to the situation. To lose your temper or have an emotional meltdown in front of your employer will only reaffirm that he/she made the right choice.

I had a client who was passed over for a position she really wanted. She had been sure she was in line for a job doing member outreach for a union. “I had done everything right. Then a much younger woman was chosen for the position. She was at least ten years younger than me. I asked the decision-maker to tell me the truth. Was I passed over because I was older, more outspoken, maybe seen as a trouble-maker with too many opinions? The look of surprise on the manager’s face told me immediately I was wrong. ‘Not at all,’ she told me. ‘We chose ‘Chloe’ for member outreach because she speaks five languages.”

Other Solutions
When talented people can find roles where they are rewarded for working hard and delivering results it makes sense to pursue those opportunities. Roles in which performance is easy to measure and tied to compensation and bonuses are appealing for many reasons (sales, business development, law, consulting, etc.).

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