{"id":8865,"date":"2018-09-15T09:01:00","date_gmt":"2018-09-15T13:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ioadvisory.com\/?p=8865"},"modified":"2020-07-07T08:16:37","modified_gmt":"2020-07-07T12:16:37","slug":"recover-after-losing-temper-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ioadvisory.com\/blog\/recover-after-losing-temper-work\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Recover after Losing your Temper at Work"},"content":{"rendered":"

These days, there\u2019s a lot to lose your temper over. Dreadful news headlines about\u00a0high profile bad behaviour<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0divisive\u00a0politics<\/a>.\u00a0 While that’s all true and legitimate, most of us don\u2019t get a pass when we lose our cool. We’re still expected to act like mature adults – especially at work.<\/p>\n

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Even Roger Federer Breaks Racquets When Angry or Frustrated (Fotosports International)<\/p><\/div>\n

This week I\u2019ve been thinking about the consequences of flaring tempers at work. This is partially because I\u2019ve been watching the commentary about tennis players who have expressed their temper on the court \u2013 and the fallout that accompanies that behaviour. Watch this video that I spotted on Facebook<\/a>, or this Top Ten tennis outbursts<\/a> video from YouTube to see exactly what I mean about this particular variety of \u2018workplace\u2019 behaviour.<\/p>\n

With behaviour, context often matters. This includes how our current behaviour compares with our past behaviour. For example, if you\u2019re normally a reasonable, even-tempered person then one meltdown or tantrum will really stick out. People will remember it. As the saying goes, you can\u2019t put lava back into a volcano. In these situations, the best thing to do is to offer a sincere apology \u2013 quickly and in front of the people who may have watched you lose your temper. Try to take responsibility instead of blaming the person who was at the receiving end of your freak-out. For good measure, it\u2019s also wise to offer the same acknowledgement of wrongdoing to your supervisor\/boss.<\/p>\n

Certain positive traits are associated with being quick to anger \u2014 these traits include intensity, a naturally competitive nature and a strong drive for achievement and excellence. Rage or anger can be a natural manifestation of passion. If you\u2019ve already cultivated a reputation for being a high strung, high-intensity person then you may have a bit more latitude. People are used to you acting a little more extra<\/em>ordinary. With that said, it\u2019s one thing to be known for being loud, passionate and having a high standard of excellence. Most people will accept that as part of your style. Those traits are never an excuse for having bad manners.<\/p>\n

\"Losing<\/a>Being intense and having high expectations are OK but crossing the fine line into abusive, threatening behaviour or personal attacks will hurt your credibility as someone who wants the best performance from yourself and others.\u00a0Moreover, it may result in accusations of harassment<\/a> and difficult conversations with HR and even \u2018Legal<\/a>.\u2019 Even if you’re known for being intense, if you lose control of yourself and have a tantrum of any sort, then you really should apologize to anyone who may have seen it or been affected by it as soon as possible. For good measure, even if people know that you’re ‘prickly’, make sure to apologize to your supervisor\/boss and let them know that this won\u2019t become a habit. If your boss\/supervisor chooses to discipline you in some way because of your bad behaviour and this makes you even angrier then that might be a sign that you should consider speaking with a psychologist or psychotherapist<\/a> to help you develop better strategies for handling your volatile emotions.<\/p>\n

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Of course, hindsight is 20\/20. So, learn from others who\u2019ve behaved regrettably at work. Here are a few strategies to consider before<\/em> you lose your temper at work<\/strong>:<\/p>\n